Double Standards & Breasts

Recently a post came up in my FB newsfeed that actually made me so frustrated that I cried.

A friend of mine put up some pictures of herself showing off quite a good deal of cleavage.

Now, in and of itself, her pictures don't bother me in the least. Nor did her caption declaring that she had worked so hard to lose weight & she deserved to show off her body. And I totally agree! Girl looks damned gorgeous & she deserves to flaunt it! She went on to say that her showing cleavage was better than what people see when they turn on pornography. Interesting. Not saying she's wrong....it's just....well....

What bothers me DEEPLY is a very harsh post she had made before regarding mothers breastfeeding in public. Especially ones who don't cover up. She talked about how low class and horrible it is for mothers to do this in public. I mean, obviously they are just trying to get attention by flaunting their breasts in public. They need to have some self respect and cover up. Breasts do not need to be exposed like that. You are a mother! Cover up! Have some decency! You're in public, for God's sake. As she said: "Stop bitching! (about being asked to cover up), have some respect & cover up! Keep the boobs covered!" (Lots more went with that but that was most of her closing)

Do you see where my frustration comes from? Why the double standard? Why is it okay for you to be proud & admittedly showing off deep cleavage (as one of her friends put it: "you're not showing nipple, so it's classy") BUT it's wrong for me, a proud mother who nurses in public uncovered, to feed my baby when she's hungry? My baby also covers my nipple and I show less skin when I'm breastfeeding than your gorgeous selfies. What makes one better than the other? Why is her "be proud and flaunt what you've got" post filled with women cheering her on, encouraging her to show off her beautiful body and to be proud....while these same women spit insults at mothers who are simply feeding their children? 

I will admit that I did not attempt to have a discussion with her about this because I truly do not believe it will lead to any meaningful or deep discussion. She has her opinions and is entitled to them but I feel so saddened by the blatant display of double standards and women not supporting each other. I wish she could see that both are beautiful and something to be proud of.